most advice is a conversation between us and our younger selves…
what are the words any younger version of you needed to hear the most? and why?
collective knowledge is powerful. let’s create a body of advice together.🤎
I’m leaving for the airport in 8 minutes so I will add mine in when I can 😅
meet you in the comments! Sending love.
P.S. if you want to face what you are avoiding together this Sunday in a virtual working session, come and show up together this Sunday from 9am-12pm EST.
" i know you're afraid and they shouldn't have scared you this much, you're only a child and they're adults. you're carrying their burdens. their mistakes, their worries. you don't deserve this burden "
" It isn't fair that you have to be the adult, but it will be over, i'm here for you, one day you'll be free "
" you deserve a life of unconditional, truly kind and undistorted love, it will take time to unlearn it and to believe you deserve it but you'll get there "
" you're internalizing a lot of trauma that shouldn't have been inflicted upon you in the first place but one day you'll get past all of it and you'll be free "
Something to the effect of “You’re not strange, nor are you abnormal or weird. Don’t let life kill your sense of curiosity and excitement for the world around you”
I am so excited to be interacting with my first post of yours! Have a safe and beautiful flight! The words I needed to hear the most when I was younger are: You were not born just to be the family therapist, to fix the adults in your life, or to raise your sibling. You are complete and whole exactly as you are. You will be unfairly called selfish when you attempt to recharge yourself instead of pouring all you have into others. Recharge. It's not selfish. If loving someone else requires you to love yourself less, it's not worth it. Loving yourself is the biggest act of love you can give to the world.
You shouldn’t have to be strong all the time. You are allowed to feel however you need to and to release yourself of the burdens of those around you. You are the most important person to take care of and cherish. Your love is so true, so love yourself first. Your body is divinely made. You are not chubby, fat, or ugly; you are a beautiful girl. Your anger is a response to emotional overload and trauma - it is not you as a person. You are free to be yourself in whatever state that is. You can do whatever you want to do in this life because you are as magical as the Disney princesses you sing after. Your voice and capabilities are amazing and inspiring - you can achieve all your dreams and more. Sing your heart out my beautiful Angel ❤️ don’t be nervous or shy to show up fully and completely in mind, body, heart and soul.
Sometimes you turn into the people you most don't want to turn into. Watch yourself, be kind to yourself, and always know that you can always turn it around, for as long as you're alive.
There are many ways to skin a cat, learn a few of them, heck! learn how to skin a puma if that's what you want, be driven by your passion(s) and know that there is value too in not finishing.
Don't let them keep you on the straight and narrow. Rebel.
Don't internalise when someone responds in a manner that makes you uneasy. Say what you need to say, and let it go.
Stop expecting them to leave, because they will keep leaving.
Build community, you are less likely to become a target when you have people to run scenarios past.
Embrace solitude, it will teach you the value of partnership.
Everyone that does you wrong knows exactly what they are doing, and that's in no way a reflection of you and your need to be treated fairly. You deserve way more than the bare minimum.
Don't start with what you don't want, focus on what you do want to happen... to become... to attract. You'll find the negative stuff everywhere, always embrace the positive.
You will make a life out of the very things you enjoy most, books and plants. You will gift these things to everyone, talk about them, write about them, learn anout them, and live with lost and lots of them. This is your gift, don't let anyone make you think otherwise.
You are not broken because your brain works differently. Most brains work differently, and you're only seeing the boxes others fit themselves into to make it through the day too. You feel empty, hollow, and numb, but that is only because there is so much in life to experience, and deep down within you you know you are here to be filled with love, and laughter, and life. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself the way you would be kind to a bug on the sidewalk you narrowly avoided stepping on. Say sorry to yourself the way you'd wished others would have apologized, and forgive yourself daily. It's okay not to know. It's okay to take your time. It's okay to be, and not do all the time.
You're not broken, you lack the systems you need and you are doing outstandingly well given your circumstances. Don't be so hard on yourself and count the positives, not just the negatives!
just because you have to force yourself to show up consistently for something - practicing instruments, training a sport, writing - it doesn't mean you don't love it, or that you've lost your passion. the fact that you do it even though it's hard shows that you care.
it's probably not that serious.
dive in. don't go wide and not deep. commit and stick with it even when you have to wrestle with the thing you love.
you will come a long way from being the girl who stacked up all the harry potter books on her desk so people couldn't see her because she was so painfully shy. be proud of all the fears you've conquered, and find a new fear to challenge every day.
hiii little one, you’re going to make a beautiful life for the people you love and for you, it’s possible, dream big!!! also you are a good kid! well done sweet 🫂🍄💚🥹🫶
" i believe in you "
" i know you're afraid and they shouldn't have scared you this much, you're only a child and they're adults. you're carrying their burdens. their mistakes, their worries. you don't deserve this burden "
" It isn't fair that you have to be the adult, but it will be over, i'm here for you, one day you'll be free "
" you deserve a life of unconditional, truly kind and undistorted love, it will take time to unlearn it and to believe you deserve it but you'll get there "
" you're internalizing a lot of trauma that shouldn't have been inflicted upon you in the first place but one day you'll get past all of it and you'll be free "
" you matter "
" i love you "
" i'll always be here for you "
All of you is lovable
You’re worthy by just existing
You’re divine in all possible forms and ways
Something to the effect of “You’re not strange, nor are you abnormal or weird. Don’t let life kill your sense of curiosity and excitement for the world around you”
I am so excited to be interacting with my first post of yours! Have a safe and beautiful flight! The words I needed to hear the most when I was younger are: You were not born just to be the family therapist, to fix the adults in your life, or to raise your sibling. You are complete and whole exactly as you are. You will be unfairly called selfish when you attempt to recharge yourself instead of pouring all you have into others. Recharge. It's not selfish. If loving someone else requires you to love yourself less, it's not worth it. Loving yourself is the biggest act of love you can give to the world.
Your existence is not a nuisance. All of your expressions are valid, even the un-happy ones. Your body does not need to be fixed.
“you’re beautiful, inside and out”
“I love being in your presence”
“I believe you”
“i’m listening”
“i accept you for who you are”
You shouldn’t have to be strong all the time. You are allowed to feel however you need to and to release yourself of the burdens of those around you. You are the most important person to take care of and cherish. Your love is so true, so love yourself first. Your body is divinely made. You are not chubby, fat, or ugly; you are a beautiful girl. Your anger is a response to emotional overload and trauma - it is not you as a person. You are free to be yourself in whatever state that is. You can do whatever you want to do in this life because you are as magical as the Disney princesses you sing after. Your voice and capabilities are amazing and inspiring - you can achieve all your dreams and more. Sing your heart out my beautiful Angel ❤️ don’t be nervous or shy to show up fully and completely in mind, body, heart and soul.
you're right
“It’s okay to have big feelings”
“I love learning more about you”
“How does that make you feel inside your body?”
Your curiosity will take you places.
Sometimes you turn into the people you most don't want to turn into. Watch yourself, be kind to yourself, and always know that you can always turn it around, for as long as you're alive.
There are many ways to skin a cat, learn a few of them, heck! learn how to skin a puma if that's what you want, be driven by your passion(s) and know that there is value too in not finishing.
Don't let them keep you on the straight and narrow. Rebel.
Don't internalise when someone responds in a manner that makes you uneasy. Say what you need to say, and let it go.
Stop expecting them to leave, because they will keep leaving.
Build community, you are less likely to become a target when you have people to run scenarios past.
Embrace solitude, it will teach you the value of partnership.
Everyone that does you wrong knows exactly what they are doing, and that's in no way a reflection of you and your need to be treated fairly. You deserve way more than the bare minimum.
Don't start with what you don't want, focus on what you do want to happen... to become... to attract. You'll find the negative stuff everywhere, always embrace the positive.
You will make a life out of the very things you enjoy most, books and plants. You will gift these things to everyone, talk about them, write about them, learn anout them, and live with lost and lots of them. This is your gift, don't let anyone make you think otherwise.
Find alternative ways of existing.
Teach others how to heal.
Learn to read the room.
Don't let yourself be silenced.
It's not your job"
You are love
You are abundance
You are what growth is
You are that warm hug
You are that bright smile
You are everything and then some
You are limitless
I see you
I love you
"you are not an outcast because you have a hard time making friends"
"you made a mistake and that's okay! you learned." (said without yelling beforehand)
"your interests are cool and valid"
You are not broken because your brain works differently. Most brains work differently, and you're only seeing the boxes others fit themselves into to make it through the day too. You feel empty, hollow, and numb, but that is only because there is so much in life to experience, and deep down within you you know you are here to be filled with love, and laughter, and life. Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself the way you would be kind to a bug on the sidewalk you narrowly avoided stepping on. Say sorry to yourself the way you'd wished others would have apologized, and forgive yourself daily. It's okay not to know. It's okay to take your time. It's okay to be, and not do all the time.
Don't limit yourself, it's better to be dissapointed knowing you tried than to not have faith in yourself in the first place!!!!!
Don't be embarrassed to be bad at something, your learning
Don't be embarrassed to cry, it means you feel and feeling is beautiful it makes you human
Nothing is hard, it's just foreign right now, you can learn how to do anything if you try
Thank you for keeping us safe ❤️
I love you for trying.
The love you seek exists simply because you exist.
You are not weird or abnormal or too much- you just are.
It’s ok to not want the same things as other people.
Thank you for showing us what love means - you really are the very image of devotion
You do not have to be excellent to be worthy of love and care.
Crying is good. Feel your emotions, don't push them away.
Friends are supposed to care about you.
I love you. I really do. And I promise one day you will be comfortable living in yourself and in the world.
"You don't have to feel like you need to prove yourself anymore."
"I got you."
*And a big ol' hug.*
You're not broken, you lack the systems you need and you are doing outstandingly well given your circumstances. Don't be so hard on yourself and count the positives, not just the negatives!
It's okay to speak.
I know you thought your words have no value,therefore forgive yourself and speak my child,I'm listening.
You are precious, tell yourself everyday.
Your crooked teeth are beautiful, there's nothing to fix,show of that smile.
Don't do it for for the eyes of people, do it for your soul's eyes.
Don't isolate yourself so much,your friends and family miss you,go talk to them.
And lastly I love every inch of you,YOU ARE A MIRACLE.
just because you have to force yourself to show up consistently for something - practicing instruments, training a sport, writing - it doesn't mean you don't love it, or that you've lost your passion. the fact that you do it even though it's hard shows that you care.
it's probably not that serious.
dive in. don't go wide and not deep. commit and stick with it even when you have to wrestle with the thing you love.
you will come a long way from being the girl who stacked up all the harry potter books on her desk so people couldn't see her because she was so painfully shy. be proud of all the fears you've conquered, and find a new fear to challenge every day.
You're lovable , just as you are.
Life will get better, because it has to. You won't be caught in a rut forever
It is safe to feel all your feelings 🫂
Your mistakes are not the end of the world
Remember to rest and breathe.
hiii little one, you’re going to make a beautiful life for the people you love and for you, it’s possible, dream big!!! also you are a good kid! well done sweet 🫂🍄💚🥹🫶
You did the best you could do, you did really hard things. Be proud of yourself